It is alright to be ambitious. But seek the Lord concerning what to do or not to do. We should put in effort in learning to love others like Christ did. That will help to bring out the best in them. The phrase striking a balance comes to mind when I think about those two things. May the Lord help us make good decisions no matter what we are going through. Psalms 127:1-2 and Eccl 12:1-14 will hopefully help us make sense of life.