Get Out of the Car!
Would you have just driven on by in your car? Hear the Story Corey Gober did it. She got out of her car and did it; she touched the dying woman and God transformed her faith. The story is told by Melody McDonald in the Sunday issue of the “Star-Telegram.” After dropping her kids off at school and day care, Corey had planned to meet a friend at a gym in Decatur and work out. It wasn’t like her to leave her purse and tennis shoes at home, but that was just another mess-up in her messed up life. As Corey turned off Texas 114 and headed south on Farm Road 51 toward home to pick up the items, she came upon a horrible wreck. A little white car had collided with a tanker truck. “I stopped for a second and I looked, and then I started to go again,” Corey recalled. “Then I said, ‘No, you need to stop.’ I felt like I needed to get out to see if she needed any help.” The driver’s door of the car was crushed and the steering wheel was hanging by wires. The driver, a woman, was lying across the front seats with her feet under the steering column. “I just kind of stood there and looked at her,” Corey said. “I think God was telling me I needed to help this woman. I needed to talk to her, to touch her or something.” Corey walked over to the passenger side, opened the door and touched the woman. Mary Kamp was lying inside her mangled car. While Corey held her hand and picked glass off her face, Mary opened her eyes and realized her horrible dream was real. She whispered, “I going to die. Tell my children that I love them. And, tell my husband that I’m sorry.” She told Corey about Amberly who is on the honor roll and is the mascot for Springtown High School. She talked about Olivia who was in day care. And she repeatedly asked for her husband. She wanted to know where he was. “Where is Rusty?” “You know,” Corey said, “it’s a good thing that I came back to my house, because I forgot my tennis shoes.” “Yeah,” Mary replied. Corey was with Mary about an hour talking to her, holding an oxygen mask over her face, and shielding her from the broken glass as workers removed the windshield. Then Mary closed her eyes. “She was at peace,” Corey said. Looking back, it seemed like Mary was actually trying to comfort Corey. Afterward, Corey got into her car and drove home. Two days later, Corey called the funeral home, asking if they would tell the family that she was with Mary when she died and pass along her phone number. “Within about 15 minutes, Mary’s husband called me,” Corey said. “I just told him that Mary was conscious, that she was able to talk. She was able to tell me about her children and she wanted me to tell them that she loved them and to tell him how sorry she was.” It was a long conversation. At the time of the wreck, Corey was an unhappy 28-year-old mother of four who was headed for a divorce. “I was angry with my husband. I was angry with God. I had all this anger inside of me. I wasn’t able to forgive.” She had been separated from her husband for several months and had already contacted a divorce attorney. That all changed after meeting Mary. “I think this was God’s way of grabbing me by the shoulders and telling me to wake up and appreciate and be thankful for what I do have.” In the hours and days after the wreck, Corey was transformed. Corey now thanks God every day for her healthy children and for having a husband who loves and cares for her. They are living together again and going through marriage counseling at their church. She thanks God and Mary for restoring her marriage, her faith, and her life. All she did was get out of the car. Find the Story Stories of transformation are all around us. Sometimes they are hidden in books, movies, or songs. They are waiting to be found and treasured. Is there a Corey story in your past or in a friend’s past? Faith is defined, not by our words, but by our actions. Ask around. Encourage your family and friends to share their faith in action stories. These stories have transforming power, you know. Be the Story I know you have already made the connection. It’s time to be the story – to get out of the car, to talk to a stranger, to touch a friend. We are too isolated and private. Our actions are too few. It’s time to be bold, courageous, brave, and involved. It’s time to risk a little, and let God work wonders. A Final Word from Ron James proclaims that faith without works is dead, buried, lifeless, and godless. We are defined by what we do, not by what we merely think or feel. So, what’s happening in your life? God is waiting for us to get out of the car. He is only limited by our fears and isolation. Don’t limit him this week. Please begin to pray for me as I get out of the car and form the initial faith coaching team. This coaching ministry will focus on helping men get out of the car and grow beyond their limitations. Pray that God leads the way. Let’s just get out of the car! About the author: Ron Rose was a beloved minister, noted author, and leader of several ministries. Ron made himself available as a listener and friend, spending time with people on the go and in coffee shops, sharing grace and a listening ear, and connecting them with God who is always in the room. Ron went to be with the Lord in November 2024,
The Value of Pain
Does pain really serve a useful purpose? And we are also happy with the troubles we have. Why are we happy with troubles? Because we know that these troubles make us more patient. And this patience is proof that we are strong. And this proof gives us hope. And this hope will never disappoint us – it will never fail. Why? Because God has poured out his love to fill our hearts. God gave us his love through the Holy Spirit. That Holy Spirit was a gift to us from God. (Romans 5:3-5 ERV) Tony Dungy is the head coach of the NFL’s Indianapolis Colts. Many were expecting his team to be competing in Super Bowl XL, but it wasn’t to be. He did, however, speak at the Athletes in Action breakfast on Saturday before the game. After receiving a lengthy standing ovation and paying tribute to Curtis Martin for winning the Athletes in Action Bart Starr Award, Dungy told the hundreds of attendees that he wanted to talk about lessons he had learned from his three sons. Reporters say the room fell silent except for the coach’s voice. He spoke first of his middle son, Eric, and his competitive nature that is so focused on athletics that “it’s almost a problem.” Then he turned to his youngest son, Jordan, whose rare congenital condition makes him insensitive to pain. “That sounds like it’s good at the beginning, but I promise you it’s not,” said Coach Dungy. “We’ve learned some hurts are really necessary for kids. Pain is necessary for kids to find out the difference between what’s good and what’s harmful.” He explained in terms of Jordan’s love for his mother’s cookies. “Cookies are good,” the coach continued, “but – in Jordan’s mind – if they’re good out on the plate, they’re even better in the oven. He will go right in the oven when my wife’s not looking, reach in, take the rack out, take the pan out, burn his hands – then eat the cookies and burn his tongue and never feel it.” With no fear borne of pain, Jordan must be watched constantly. And the lesson from that, Dungy said, is pretty simple. “You get the question all the time, ‘Why does the Lord allow pain in your life? Why do bad things happen to good people? If there is a God of love, why does he allow these hurtful things to happen?’ We’ve learned that a lot of times because of that pain, that little temporary pain, you learn what’s harmful. You learn to fear the right things. “Pain sometimes lets us know we have a condition that needs to be healed. Pain inside sometimes lets us know that spiritually we’re not quite right, and we need to be healed. And that God will send that healing agent right to the spot. Sometimes pain is the only way that will turn us as kids back to the Father.” Only then did Coach Dungy speak of his oldest son, James, who took his life three days before Christmas. Of his family’s pain. Of lessons they learned. Coach Dungy reminds us all that the only way to overcome heartache and death, discouragement and anguish is to let them turn us back to the Father. When that happens, we have discovered the ultimate value our pain can have. About the author: Rubel Shelly preached for decades and served as a professor of medical ethics, Bible, and philosophy at multiple universities. He was a former president of Rochester College and Professor of Philosophy and Religion at Lipscomb University. He was the author of more than 30 books and hundreds of inspirational articles. His commitment to a non-sectarian presentation of the gospel touched countless lives.
No Room for Death?
Is there room beyond the cemetery plot for you? But the truth is that Christ has been raised up, the first in a long legacy of those who are going to leave the cemeteries. … Everybody dies in Adam; everybody comes alive in Christ. But we have to wait our turn: Christ is first, then those with him at his Coming (1 Corinthians 15:20-23 MSG). Gerard Lalanne has a problem. And the ordinance he’s passed is not going to solve it. Mr. Lalanne is the mayor of the village of Sapourenx, in the southwest of France. The problem he’s facing is a lack of space. Not in City Hall, or in the retail district of town – the lack of space he’s trying to deal with is a bit more problematic than that. The cemetery of Sapourenx is full. And apparently – wait for it – people are just dying to get in. Mr. Lalanne has tried to be reasonable. He really has. But an administrative court ruled against his proposal to acquire private land adjoining the cemetery in order to increase its, uh, capacity. And so Mr. Lalanne took the only recourse open to a politician. In an ordinance posted in the city council offices, he informed the 260 residents of the town that they are no longer allowed to die. The ordinance reads, in part, “[A]ll persons not having a plot in the cemetery and wishing to be buried in Sarpourenx are forbidden from dying in the parish.” “Offenders will be severely punished,” it adds. Something tells me that Mr. Lalanne’s ordinance isn’t likely to be enforced. It isn’t supposed to be, of course; it’s intended as a statement to those who the mayor feels have put him in an impossible situation. “Oh, I can’t expand the cemetery? Well, then, I’ll just pass a law against dying. That should solve the problem.” Would that it were that easy, huh? Odds are that some of the people reading these words right now would love to believe that passing a law could stop death. I know, in fact, of several families touched by death recently. A mother and grandmother. A husband, father, and son-in-law. A beloved uncle and friend. Funerals seem to occur in bunches in my life, and lately I’ve just been to too many. I know the families touched most deeply by those losses would agree, and wish with all their hearts that there could be, well, a moratorium on death. And then there are those who haven’t been touched by death yet, but who are being stalked. A young man, younger than me, with cancer. An elderly lady, another mother and grandmother. All of us, eventually, feel death closing in on the people we love. And sooner or later, on us. Remember the story of the servant who came to his master, terrified because he had seen Death in the marketplace? “Death made a threatening gesture toward me,” the servant whimpers, and so the master makes arrangements to send the servant on an errand to another town, Samarra, so that Death won’t be able to get to him. Then the master goes to the marketplace and tracks down Death. “Why did you threaten my servant?” he asks. Remember Death’s response? “I didn’t threaten him,” Death answers. “I was just surprised to see him here in the marketplace, because I have an appointment with him tonight in Samarra.” The moral, even for a people with the best medical care in history and an extended life expectancy, is that Death catches up with all of us eventually. “Everybody dies in Adam.” That’s Paul’s way of saying that we’re not immortal. It’s his recognition that the Fall was real and that God’s warning was true: by going our own way, human beings would be the midwives that brought death into the world. We thought we’d be like God, but now we have a problem: Death walks in our marketplaces and takes who he wants, whenever he chooses. To the extent that we share in the same human nature as Adam, we share in his death. And, sadly, there’s nothing we can do about it. Might as well pass a law against dying, for all the good it’ll do. Happily, what we can do about it isn’t the end of the story. In the same way that we look a few days down the road toward Easter, we anticipate the fulfillment of the hope to which Jesus’ resurrection attests. “Everybody comes alive in Christ,” is the way Paul put it. In the same way that we all share in death because of Adam’s sin, we will all share in resurrection because of Jesus’ life. He identified with us by sharing in death, even though he was not guilty of the sin that brought it about. And he did this so that we can share in the victory over death that his resurrection brought about. As surely as he was raised to life, so will everyone who has trusted in him. As surely as his tomb was empty, so will be the tombs of everyone who identifies with him. In effect, Jesus did what we only wish we could do. He passed a decree against death; he prohibited death from exercising its power over human beings. “The trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable,” Scripture promises. “Then the saying that is written will come true: ‘Death has been swallowed up in victory’” (1 Corinthians 15:53-54 NIV). We still have to die, and we still have to mourn, but because of Jesus there is hope. We grieve for those we love while celebrating their new, eternal lives. We face our eventual death with peace, not fear, trusting in the promise that “Everybody comes alive in Christ.” So while there is no hope of a moratorium on death on this side of Jesus’ return, there is a solid guarantee that on the day he comes back, death will be dealt with
Emergency?
Is this really a situation that demands a 911 call? I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well-fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength (Philippians 4:12-13). Emergency. For me, the word brings to mind catastrophes. A fire, an earthquake, a tornado. A broken dike that floods a city. A terrorist attack. A violent crime. A terrible accident. To my way of thinking, an emergency requires the intervention of police, rescue, or medical personnel. But maybe I’m too narrow in my definition. Maybe I should broaden my understanding of the word to include, say, a restaurant running out of delicious chicken products. Latreasa would apparently say so. Earlier this week, she ordered a ten-piece Chicken McNuggetsTM meal at a McDonald’s in Fort Pierce, Florida. After she had paid for the food, she was told that they were out of McNuggets. Latreasa became “irate,” especially after the cashier told her (mistakenly, as it turned out) that she couldn’t give Latreasa a refund. She offered Latreasa another choice from the menu, and that’s when Latreasa decided it was time to let the professionals handle this emergency. She called 911. Three times. Wouldn’t you love to hear those 911 recordings? You can! Recording Call 1 Recording Call 2 Recording Call 3 No, sorry, Latreasa. I can’t buy it. Being hungry and completely without food, like many people in the world actually are – that’s an emergency. But a restaurant being out of your favorite item, with a whole menu full of alternatives? Well, at best, I’d call that an inconvenience. A minor annoyance. But, aren’t we good at magnifying those minor annoyances into major catastrophes? I mean, maybe you’ve never called 911 because of anything that’s happened at the counter of a fast-food restaurant, but I imagine you’ve sat fuming in traffic, staring at your watch, thinking about all the important things that weren’t getting done while you sat there. Or if not that, maybe you’ve inflated a small setback at work into a crisis. Perhaps you can relate more to allowing a romantic reversal to send you spiraling into depression or relate to losing your temper at a relatively minor spousal misstatement or misdeed. Maybe it’s none of those things specifically, but you get the picture, right? And I’m guessing that you, like me, have been guilty of breaking the glass and pulling the “emergency” alarm just a hair too quickly. Our problem, I think, is that underneath our grown-up exteriors and our ability, when necessary, to make sacrifices, is still that cosmology we had in childhood. You know the one I mean. The one where I think the world revolves around me. And if the world revolves around me, then everything that goes wrong for me is potentially an emergency. And, thus, potentially an occasion for sulking, yelling, lashing out, or striking back. That’s why I’m intrigued when Paul says that he’s learned “the secret of being content in any and every situation.” If you know anything at all about Paul, then you know that he found himself in some fairly hair-raising situations. He was hungry sometimes – not in the sense of wishing he could get some delicious chicken products, but hungry in the sense of literal starvation. He spent some considerable time in jail. He narrowly escaped lynch mobs – or more historically accurate, mobs that wanted to stone him – more than once. He had health problems, relationship problems, and he was even shipwrecked a time or two. And that doesn’t even include the stress of travelling all the time, dealing with church problems, and putting up with people who went out of their way to sabotage everything he tried to do. So when Paul says he’s learned to be content, I tend to want to pay attention. The secret, though, is a little tough to hear. Paul says that his ability to be content whatever the situation comes out of replacing himself as the one around whom the world revolves. With his believe that Jesus had risen from the dead and his decision to let Jesus call the shots in his life, the center of gravity in Paul’s life changed. What happened to him mattered not nearly as much as whether or not he lived a life that was faithful to his new calling. And with that perspective, things that he once would likely have considered crises – emergencies – became non-events. And the serendipity of this change, for Paul, was that Jesus became not just Lord, but “him who gives me strength.” By choosing to trust the Lord and not hit the panic button when things seemed to go off the rails in his life, Paul discovered a source of strength to endure and overcome that he never would have known otherwise. He discovered that he could not only survive in difficult situations, but that he could thrive – because where his strength ended, there Jesus’ power began. That’s the problem in not learning to find contentment in Jesus regardless of circumstances. When we hit the panic button too early, we invariably lurch into crisis mode and try to come up with our own solutions to our problems. Trouble is that our own solutions are almost always about finding a quick way out, with as little personal discomfort as possible. Worst of all, when we chase our own solutions, we miss out on what the Lord would do for us. So here’s what we do, I think. First, we tell God that, with his help, we’re going to find our contentment in him. We’re going to trust in his goodness and generosity, and when times are lean we’re going to believe that in him we’ll have all the strength to endure whatever we have to endure. Secondly,
The Humility of a Little Donkey
How much glory should we expect? This Sunday is called Palm Sunday. For those of us who don’t enjoy the formalism and liturgy of some churches, Palm Sunday is the day Jesus entered Jerusalem on a donkey to the shouts of the crowd, >”Hosanna! Blessed is the one who comes in the name of the Lord – the King of Israel!” (John 12:13 NRSV) This is the day Jesus entered triumphantly into Jerusalem and marked, for some, the beginning of a new era in fulfillment of Zechariah 9:9. There was incredible excitement in the city, but it was a mixed excitement. Some were glad this worker of miracles was entering the Holy City, while others were poised to end his life as a troublemaker and rebel! The events that transpired between that original Palm Sunday and the next Sunday, Resurrection Sunday, changed the world forever. However, every time I think about Palm Sunday, I think about a little Catholic nun named Sister Theresa. Years ago, she was awarded the Nobel Peace prize for the years of sacrificial love and mercy given to the poor of India. She was interviewed on the Tonight Show with Johnny Carson. I will never forget what I heard that evening. Mr. Carson was very respectful of Theresa, but at one point he asked her if the cash money she received as a part of the prize or the notoriety of the moment would “go to her head.” Being one of the most humble people in the world, Theresa’s answer was not to be unexpected, but it did throw Mr. Carson for a loop – as well as the rest of us who happened to be watching. She reminded Mr. Carson of the day when Jesus rode into the city of Jerusalem on that little donkey. He remembered the story. She then asked, “Do you think, Mr. Carson, for one moment, that that little donkey thought the crowd was giving him the praise and glory instead of Jesus?” Wow! Johnny didn’t know what to say! I don’t know if the Holy Spirit put that in her mouth or if she was prepared to answer such a question, but it has always stuck in my mind. Palm Sunday, and every other Sunday for that matter, is about nothing else but Jesus Christ and him crucified, and now powerfully raised from the dead. We can shout and cheer and lay down palm branches all we want, but if we miss the fact that we do so because Jesus is God and we are simply a part of the story because of His grace, then we miss the point. It will do us well to be reminded of this truth from time to time. About the author: Joe Bagby has been preaching for thirty years. He and his wife Paula were missionaries to Thailand in the 80’s for eight years where they adopted twin girls, Hope and Joy. Joe receive his masters degree in Congregational Ministry from Abilene Christian University with a BS in Education from University of North Texas. He is now serving as Pulpit Minister for the 4th and Elm Church of Christ in Sweetwater, Texas.
How Falsehoods Diminish Truth
Why would we discredit the resurrection of Jesus by our lifestyle? The story is absolutely mesmerizing! It is a touching tale from the years of the Holocaust. A little Jewish girl from Belgium makes her way across Europe to search for her Nazi-deported parents. She is able to escape capture herself only by taking refuge with packs of friendly wolves. In the course of her incredible escape, she even kills a German soldier. This multi-layered account of Nazi cruelty, childhood innocence, and unlikely rescue was published as Misha: A Memoire of the Holocaust Years. It generated millions of dollars in revenue and was translated into 18 languages. A French movie from the book has been a hit during its current run. Then came the confession through her lawyer last Thursday that Misha Defonseca’s dramatic story is a shameful lie. Defonseca spent the war years in safety in Belgium. Despite her moving speeches about experiences that led to her bestselling book, we know now that she made up the stories about wolves and Nazis. She isn’t even Jewish. Scholars had challenged a garble of dates, events, and information in the book. But their research largely fell on deaf ears, as the public received the book with eagerness. Now the house of cards has collapsed. People who misrepresent significant realities with trumped-up, self-serving false claims actually manage to tarnish the truth. In the words of Dr. Lawrence Langer, one of the scholars who knew all along it was a hoax: “What happened to the Jews was the worst atrocity in history, and people who exploit it for profit, by posing as Jews or lying about being part of the experience, insult those who went through it. It’s as bad as saying the Holocaust never happened.” The gruesome facts of the Holocaust don’t change; a woman’s misrepresentation of her experiences related to that event minimizes it, however, and gives comfort to Holocaust-deniers and anti-Semites. Neither do the facts of Christ’s resurrection and the life-changing power of the gospel change; people who misrepresent themselves as its messengers or devotees tarnish the Christian faith, discredit Jesus of Nazareth, and decrease the likelihood that unbelievers would consider – much less embrace – it. Sleazy televangelists, gay-bashers at military funerals, priests who molest children, church-member moms and dads who betray families, Sunday school teachers who bully or curse employees at work – all are agents of betrayal. They sabotage the gospel, undermine Christ’s appeal, and make faith unattractive. Truth’s credibility is always tied to the integrity of its messengers. For the appeal we make does not spring from error or impure motives, nor are we trying to trick you. On the contrary, we speak as those approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel. We are not trying to please people but God, who tests our hearts. You know we never used flattery, nor did we put on a mask to cover up greed – God is our witness. We were not looking for praise from any human being, not from you or anyone else, even though as apostles of Christ we could have asserted our prerogatives. Instead, we were like young children among you. Just as a nursing mother cares for her children, so we cared for you. Because we loved you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well. Surely you remember, brothers and sisters, our toil and hardship; we worked night and day in order not to be a burden to anyone while we preached the gospel of God to you (1 Thessalonians 2:3-9 TNIV). About the author: Rubel Shelly preached for decades and served as a professor of medical ethics, Bible, and philosophy at multiple universities. He was a former president of Rochester College and Professor of Philosophy and Religion at Lipscomb University. He was the author of more than 30 books and hundreds of inspirational articles. His commitment to a non-sectarian presentation of the gospel touched countless lives.
It Hurts to Breathe
Have you ever hurt this badly? Almost daily I receive notes from my readers from around the world. Most are encouraging. A few point out some flaw of mine or mistake I have made. On occasion I receive a note like the one below. If it doesn’t touch your heart, nothing will. “My name is Kim. My very precious grandson died Tuesday morning. He was only 3 months old. I know that God is in control, but it is so very hard to remember that every hour of the day. Please pray for my family. We need lifting up to the Lord. This is the most horrible thing I have ever had to go through. It hurts to breathe. I know that God will not give us more than we can handle, but this is killing me. Thank You, Kim” I don’t know Kim, but I wish I did! She is just one of many Christians scattered around the world. For many of us, the Internet is a lifeline! We are able to daily reach out and touch someone else. Sometimes we reach out to hear about some problem of our Christian brothers and sisters and sometimes to share some heartbreak of our own. I have thought about the message I would like to share with Kim and others facing similar tragedies. Sometimes we hurt so much that “it hurts to breathe”! Every breath we take is filled with sobs of anguish and tears of sorrow. As much as I would wish it were otherwise, there just is no quick fix! There is no easy way to rid us of the sorrow of a loss like this. So to Kim and to all of the rest of you who are dealing with heartbreak let me tell you that you are not alone! I love the picture given to us in Hebrews 12. Here the writer is talking about our fight against sin and our need to remain faithful to God. He gives us some reasons to hang in there and hold on to our faith! Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily hinders our progress. And let us run with endurance the race that God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, on whom our faith depends from start to finish. He was willing to die a shameful death on the cross because of the joy he knew would be his afterward. Now he is seated in the place of highest honor beside God’s throne in heaven. Think about all he endured when sinful people did such terrible things to him, so that you don’t become weary and give up. (Hebrews 12:1-3) I don’t know if we can really appreciate the picture here – of a stadium full of people who have all been through the same things we are going through. Some are in the stands cheering us on. Some are running along beside us encouraging us to hold on to our faith and finish the race. In other words, we are not alone as we endure our tragedy. Even though it may seem like little comfort to us at the moment, hang on, because things will get better! Just keep your eyes on Jesus. Don’t lose that vision! Next consider with me the story of King David and the death of his son. He had committed both adultery and murder. God was forced to show the people that he would not accept sin, even from King David. God sent a prophet to tell David that his newborn son would die. Notice what happens: David begged God to spare the child. He went without food and lay all night on the bare ground. The leaders of the nation pleaded with him to get up and eat with them, but he refused. Then on the seventh day the baby died. David’s advisers were afraid to tell him. “He was so broken up about the baby being sick,” they said. “What will he do to himself when we tell him the child is dead?”But when David saw them whispering, he realized what had happened. “Is the baby dead?” he asked.“Yes,” they replied.Then David got up from the ground, washed himself, put on lotions, and changed his clothes. Then he went to the Tabernacle and worshiped the LORD. After that, he returned to the palace and ate. His advisers were amazed. “We don’t understand you,” they told him. “While the baby was still living, you wept and refused to eat. But now that the baby is dead, you have stopped your mourning and are eating again.”David replied, “I fasted and wept while the child was alive, for I said, ‘Perhaps the LORD will be gracious to me and let the child live.’ But why should I fast when he is dead? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him one day, but he cannot return to me.” (2 Samuel 12:16-23) That is the faith we need today! That we could accept the death of a loved one, especially of a precious child with the statement of faith, “I will go to him one day,” and then get on with life. My wife and I have had to deal with the death of one of our grandchildren also. Our daughter-in-law miscarried before he was ready to be born. You might think that it wasn’t quite the same as having gotten to know a child for days, months, or years. But we had gone through the same rejoicing and celebrating with the pending birth that continues after that child is born. He was already a part of our family and already loved. It was a test of our faith, but we were able put it all in God’s hands and turn loose of the grief. I loved the
A Coach’s Choice
Would you have given a boy with these struggles a chance? Jason McElwain was senior at Greece Athena High School in Rochester, New York. He has had some tough breaks in life. But most of the other kids at his high school treat him with respect. He tries hard. People like him. He has been pretty visible this year as manager of the varsity basketball team. He is autistic. His autism has been a major “bad break” for J-Mac, as his friends call him. Autism is a brain disorder that typically shows itself in problems with socialization and communication. Some people find it hard to be around persons with autism. J-Mac has the good fortune of attending a school that does everything possible to integrate students with developmental issues into the mainstream of life. Coach Jim Johnson even added him to the team roster for the final basketball game of the season. He hoped to get him in the game for a few minutes. He wanted J-Mac to have the experience. To get a team jersey. To cherish a memory. But he had no idea things would turn out as they did. With Greece Athena well in the lead and four minutes left on the clock, Johnson put J-Mac in the game. And the kid did the unthinkable! After missing his first two shots, he scored 20 points in three minutes – 18 by draining three-point shots from the perimeter. The team carried him on their shoulders in celebration. “This is the first moment Jason has ever succeeded and been proud of himself,” said his mother. “I look at autism as the Berlin Wall, and he cracked it.” Her greater dream for her son is that he can get a high school diploma. Hooray for Jason. Hooray for the attention this story has gotten not only in local news but in national media. And hooray for the encouragement and hope this heartwarming episode will bring to families dealing with similar challenges. But I’ve not heard many folks applauding the coach for his decision to give J-Mac a chance. So my kudos go to Jim Johnson. He paid attention to a kid who needed a break. Made him team manager. Took the chance of putting a uniform on him and putting him into a game. What a gutsy call by the coach! “I’ve had a lot of thrills in coaching and I’ve coached a lot of wonderful kids, but I’ve never experienced something like this ever in my life – you know, other than my own family things,” Johnson said. “My emotions, I couldn’t stop crying.” Thank God for people who give other people a chance! About the author: Rubel Shelly preached for decades and served as a professor of medical ethics, Bible, and philosophy at multiple universities. He was a former president of Rochester College and Professor of Philosophy and Religion at Lipscomb University. He was the author of more than 30 books and hundreds of inspirational articles. His commitment to a non-sectarian presentation of the gospel touched countless lives.
A “Lucky” Break
Sometimes when things look worst, God is working to make something good~ Sally Hampton really got a break. The amazing thing is that it didn’t look like such a good thing at first. But you need more information. Most of us are prone to envy the woman who wins the lottery with a ticket somebody threw away. The homeless fellow who finds out he is the sole surviving heir of a millionaire who just died. The person selected for one of those “makeover” jobs and gets straight teeth, a nose job, and a new wardrobe – maybe a new car too. But these folks are a tiny, tiny percentage of the population. More of us are likely to start out as Sally Hampton did. Something happens to you that doesn’t look very promising. As a matter of fact, what happened to her appeared to be an absolute disaster. Appearances sometimes deceive us. Sally was at a bar in a small Florida town last July 4. The bartender called closing time, but one of the younger patrons didn’t want to leave. Sally is in her sixties and looks rather grandmotherly. So she put her hand on the fellow’s shoulder, told him it was time to go, and started walking him toward the door. That’s when Sally got her, uh, “break.” The fellow wheeled on her and smashed her head with his beer bottle! When she fell to the ground, he kicked her in the head! He was arrested. Sally was transported to the hospital. As physicians put her through a series of tests, they found that her wounds were not serious. But a tumor they found growing in her brain definitely was! It was a life-threatening tumor that had produced no symptoms yet. As a result of the assault, though, it had been discovered in time. She has had surgery. She is recovering well. And earlier this month she testified in court against her attacker – who is now serving twelve and one-half years in prison. Sally Hampton’s story reminds the rest of us that our own good fortune often comes in disguise. Ever hear a recovering alcoholic tell you that hitting rock bottom from his drinking was the best thing that ever happened to him? Discover yourself that losing a job pushed you to learn skills you needed to do something more significant with your life? Look back to see that a failed relationship set you free from a destructive and unhealthy dependence? Sally reflects on her experience and says that God’s ways are mysterious. “But he could have let me know a little softer,” she says. “That was horrible.” If you’ve taken a tough blow, don’t despair. Your life story is still unfolding. Unlikely as it sounds, you may look back someday and see it as your big break. We know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. (Romans 8:28) About the author: Rubel Shelly preached for decades and served as a professor of medical ethics, Bible, and philosophy at multiple universities. He was a former president of Rochester College and Professor of Philosophy and Religion at Lipscomb University. He was the author of more than 30 books and hundreds of inspirational articles. His commitment to a non-sectarian presentation of the gospel touched countless lives.
A Soul Called Leslie
Would you have gone looking for Leslie? Don’t forget to show hospitality to strangers, for some who have done this have entertained angels without realizing it! (Hebrews 13:2 NLT) This week I was talking to my friend Evette. She doesn’t read my blog, but friends from church know her, and I am sure she won’t mind me retelling her story. She inspired me. First of all, let me tell you about a soul called Leslie. The first time I saw Leslie, 7-8 years ago, he was standing in the back of my church wearing a tight teal blue dress, 3″ red heels, make up, bright red lipstick, his hair was – and still is – long, and he was carrying a gold purse. He just stood there just as plain as day looking for a seat. My family sits on the back row and my twins were infants at the time, so I can’t say that my whole attention was on this visitor, but he certainly caught my attention. Several people went up to Leslie and visited with him. I am assuming someone asked him to sit with them. He came back to church while he was in Abilene several times, maybe off and on for several months, but one day he decided it was time to move on. There were several people who tried to reach out a helping hand to Leslie – food, money and even some men’s clothing, although he was not interested in the latter. Leslie found his way to Austin. That is where he lives now. And that is where my story for today really starts. My friend, Evette, told me she was in Austin for a teacher’s conference. She knew that Leslie hung out on 6th street, so she went looking for him. She had been one of the people who had befriended Leslie in Abilene. Evette asked several people if they knew where Leslie could be found. One woman said to her, “Why would you want to find him?” Evette said as plain as day, and very convicted, “He is my friend.” She eventually found Leslie and visited with him on the street. She asked him if he remembered her, and he said, “Yes, you are Evette, from Abilene.” Leslie works the streets. He is addicted and looks gaunt and thin. His hair is thinning. The clothes he was wearing were women’s under garments and he was on the street. People that walked by knew the person he was – his character, his life – but my friend, Evette, talked with him as though he was a long lost friend and she was proud to know him. I told Evette, “God bless you. I am not sure that I would have sought out Leslie.” Later on, upon further reflection, I realized I would never have sought out Leslie. If I would have seen Leslie in his street attire, I probably would have avoided him – put my eyes down and never looked up. This is a sad and sorry confession, but I would have let my fear of the unknown keep me from loving and engaging the soul called Leslie. God forgive me! Help me see your children with your eyes. Help me love with your compassion. Help my heart break for those whom you love that are lost, even when it gets messy. God bless Evette. May she continue to love with your love and inspire me – and others – to get out of our comfort zones and love those we don’t understand. God loves Leslie, and so must we. There will be Leslie’s in all of our lives – people that make us uncomfortable, people that don’t fit our mold, people that are obnoxious and arrogant, people that hurt our feelings – but those are our Leslie’s. God loves us in our worst moments, how can we withhold that love from others? For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. … But God proves his love for us in that while we still were sinners Christ died for us. … For if while we were enemies, we were reconciled to God through the death of his Son, much more surely, having been reconciled, will we be saved by his life. (Romans 5:6-10 NRS emphasis added) About the author: Tammy Marcelain is part of The Coffee Group. For many years Tammy walked away from the Lord and through His love and grace she has come home to His loving hands. Tammy’s son jack was diagnosed with a brain tumor in April of 2005. Her life shows how to hold onto the Lord and live through His grace in hard times.